Going It Alone

Free Independent Travelling is a window of opportunity

Loving life is easy when you are abroad. Where no one knows you and you hold your life in your hands all alone, you are more master of yourself than at any other time – Hanna Arendt

By i.c Golina

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My solo adventures have been wonderful and brought exciting experiences to me. Yes, travelling on my own brought freedom, flexibility and expansiveness. I have come to realise that, when I travel alone, I am more open and willing to meet people both locals and other travellers. It gives me the urge to be more interactive with others that are around me.

George Bernard Shaw once wrote when he went on a trip with his wife to Europe, “Married people should never travel together”. He continued to reason why – They blame one another for everything that goes wrong, and very soon each feels that the other is dragging him (or her) round Europe under pretense of benefiting his (or her) health and finally driving him (or her) mad”. This was no surprise to me when I was recently talking to a man travelling alone on the train. He stated that, travelling without his spouse gives him a sense of freedom and flexibility rather than been dragged and gets direction from his wife all the time. He grinned as he sipped another glass of wine. He was thoroughly enjoying his trip alone. 

During my adventure travels, I have observed that being driven mad by a companion is a recurrent theme. What matters most here is not where you are but whom you are with. When we travel we sometimes have to make a choice. We tend to be faced with decision on whether to travel alone, risk a companion (even a spouse) or take a chance with a group. To me, I would rather travel alone.

 I began to reflect back on most of the travels that I have done around the world. Yes, I have travelled alone and mostly did it on my own. As I travel alone, I tend to absorb a lot and create a personal memoir through thinking which only I can know “I think one travels more usefully when they travel alone, because they reflect more.” – Thomas Jefferson. 

When travelling alone, it is not easy and it can be very daunting, especially for someone traveling alone for the first time. It certainly, raises a number of unsettling questions – Is it going to be safe when i am traveling alone? What route or direction should I follow? Who is going to take photos of me staring off into the distance atop scenic vantage points? What am I going to do if there is an accident? I am in an unfamiliar territory, what it is going to be like?

The major ingredient in mastering the art of solo travel is selecting the right recipe and that is your right destination. Whether it is a multi-country trip or a city break, some regions are more suited to the solo-travel experience than others; but with a plethora of possibilities, it’s hard to know where to start.

For me travelling alone in foreign countries, I see myself as an adventurer rather than people unable to find companionship. This gives me a sense of ignoring external inconvenience and surrender myself entirely to the experience. This does depend on the presence of the travel companions, especially when I am on a tour.  I have found that travelling alone, I have created solid friendship

I had the opportunity that I have travelled to most parts of the world alone. Yes, I have travelled far and wide and so many more places to go and visit. I still don’t know where my journey will end but someday, I will have to call it a “quit”.

From a personal perspective: I have noticed that most people who have travelled extensively throughout the world or if they are experienced travellers, their demand on many services are very demanding or high maintenance customers. This ideology maybe wrong in some respect because certain people in certain countries are very demanding as well. This brings it all to complex structure of travelling but if we travel and experience other people’s way of life or how they deal with people we can learn a lot about them. It is every individual’s experience

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